So what is the norm? —> It’s everything that holds you back.
So what is the norm? —> It’s everything that holds you back.
So what is the norm? —> It’s everything that holds you back.
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I help you break the norm and live on your own terms.
I help you break the norm and live on your own terms.
With a background in psychology, guiding over 50 groups around the world, writing for magazines, and working on my first book, I know what it means to step outside expectations and what it costs when you don’t.
I don’t offer fluffy coaching or quick-fix hacks. I bring real stories, sharp insights, and practical tools. Whether it’s a one-on-one conversation, a bold trip abroad, or a community that keeps you moving: this is where clarity, courage and freedom meet.
Book a one-on-one, join a talk, or plan your next bold adventure.
With a background in psychology, guiding over 50 groups around the world, writing for magazines, and working on my first book, I know what it means to step outside expectations and what it costs when you don’t.
I don’t offer fluffy coaching or quick-fix hacks. I bring real stories, sharp insights, and practical tools. Whether it’s a one-on-one conversation, a bold trip abroad, or a community that keeps you moving: this is where clarity, courage and freedom meet.
Book a one-on-one, join a talk, or plan your next bold adventure.
PS: If you’re looking for sugarcoated advice or “everything will be fine” mantras: this is not the place.
PS: If you’re looking for sugarcoated advice or “everything will be fine” mantras: this is not the place.
Ways we can work together
Hi, I am Tess
Hi, i am Tess
I’m a psychologist who traded the safe route for the wild one. At 18, I left home. At 19, I was leading groups around the world. By 24, I’d already faced burnout, loss, and the kind of chaos most people never talk about.
What that gave me?
A deep understanding of why we crave freedom, why we get stuck, and what it actually takes to get unstuck.
I founded Off the Norm to help others redefine what success and freedom mean: in life, work, and travel.
Click through to read more of my story: the unpolished version.
I’m a psychologist who traded the safe route for the wild one. At 18, I left home. At 19, I was leading groups around the world. By 24, I’d already faced burnout, loss, and the kind of chaos most people never talk about.
What that gave me?
A deep understanding of why we crave freedom, why we get stuck, and what it actually takes to get unstuck.
I founded Off the Norm to help others redefine what success and freedom mean: in life, work, and travel.
Click through to read more of my story: the unpolished version.
Degree in Psychology
50+ groups guided worldwide
Published essays (Bedrock)
Talks and coaching that cut through the noise
Recognize yourself?
You feel like you’re always running, but never arriving.
You say yes to everyone, and forget what you actually want.
You’ve achieved things (career, travel, relationships), but somehow it still feels empty.
You’re scared of making the “wrong” choice, so you freeze instead.
You secretly wonder: is this really all there is?
You want to live fully, but feel the weight of constant pressure of society?
You feel like you’re always running,
but never arriving.
You say yes to everyone,
and forget what you actually want.
You’ve achieved things
(career, travel, relationships),
but somehow it still feels empty.
You’re scared of making the “wrong”
choice, so you freeze instead.
You secretly wonder: is this
really all there is?
You want to live fully, but feel the weight
of constant pressure of society?
Recognize yourself?
If this hits, you’re not broken. You’re human. And you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Don't take my word for it
Don't take my word for it
If you want to know what it’s like to work with me, hear it from the people who’ve been there. Their words tell the story better than I ever could.
Don't take my word for it
If you want to know what it’s like to work with me, hear it from the people who’ve been there. Their words tell the story better than I ever could.
Your questions, answered
Your questions, answered
Here’s what most people want to know before we start. If you don’t find the information you’re looking for, feel free to contact me.
Here’s what most people want to know before we start. If you don’t find the information you’re looking for, feel free to contact me.
What if I’m not sure coaching or a talk is right for me?
That’s exactly the reason to try. You don’t need to be “ready” or “certain.” A session isn’t a lifelong contract, it’s a reality check. Think of it as testing the waters, not jumping off a cliff. We'll go at your pace.
Is this only for people in crisis, or also if I just feel stuck?
Do I have to share everything?
Do you only work with women?
How much does a session cost, and what do I actually get?
What if I don’t have time for a whole program?
Are you just going to tell me “everything will be fine”?
What kind of people do you work with?
What if I’m not sure coaching or a talk is right for me?
That’s exactly the reason to try. You don’t need to be “ready” or “certain.” A session isn’t a lifelong contract, it’s a reality check. Think of it as testing the waters, not jumping off a cliff. We'll go at your pace.
Is this only for people in crisis, or also if I just feel stuck?
Do I have to share everything?
Do you only work with women?
How much does a session cost, and what do I actually get?
What if I don’t have time for a whole program?
Are you just going to tell me “everything will be fine”?
What kind of people do you work with?
What if I’m not sure coaching or a talk is right for me?
That’s exactly the reason to try. You don’t need to be “ready” or “certain.” A session isn’t a lifelong contract, it’s a reality check. Think of it as testing the waters, not jumping off a cliff. We'll go at your pace.
Is this only for people in crisis, or also if I just feel stuck?
Do I have to share everything?
Do you only work with women?
How much does a session cost, and what do I actually get?
What if I don’t have time for a whole program?
Are you just going to tell me “everything will be fine”?
What kind of people do you work with?
Let's talk about your freedom.
No waiting lists. No polished scripts. Just an honest conversation about where you are and where you want to go. I’ve guided hundreds of people through chaos, burnout, and big adventures, and I know freedom rarely looks perfect.
Book a session or send me a message: I’d love to hear your story.
Let’s connect!
Let's talk about your freedom.
No waiting lists. No polished scripts. Just an honest conversation about where you are and where you want to go. I’ve guided hundreds of people through chaos, burnout, and big adventures, and I know freedom rarely looks perfect.
Book a session or send me a message: I’d love to hear your story.
Let’s connect!
Latest writings
Stories that make you think, laugh, or question the norm.
Ready to break the norm?
Book a clarity session, join a workshop, or start with joining the community. Your choice.
Ready to break the norm?
Book a clarity session, join a workshop, or start with joining the community. Your choice.
Ready to break the norm?
Book a clarity session, join a workshop, or start with joining the community. Your choice.